What are Your Fantasies?

  Our fantasies often reveal more of our true selves than our outer world. Because there are so many mixed messages as part of being human, dark fantasies often cover beautiful dreams. The question to ask when "mining" fantasies for our true selves is: "What does this do for me?" As an example of mining a dark fantasy, if you have a fantasy about rape, is it the joy of being able to act freely and impulsively that finds this fantasy attractive? Is it the hunger to connect deeply with others without having to go through endless defense systems? Or is it the desire to feel powerful? Keep mining, layer by layer until you find the joy and positive intention that is at the root of every impulse.


What Do You Really Want?

When you find the root of your positive intent at the bottom of your layers of fantasies,  what is another form that desire could take that is a direct response to the ultimate positive desire. By the way, you can verify this for yourself by asking how long it would take to get bored with fear, power over, revenge and manipulation when you absolutely knew you could flip a switch at any moment and have complete power to live whatever dream you wanted in ways that no one could stop. When you really truly got that you could hurt or love another in the exact ways you wanted without consequence it is only a matter of time before love becomes more interesting, complex, sustainable and enjoyable. It is only when we fear love will be taken away that we consciously destroy it ourselves to avoid our fear of loss.


What do You Need to Learn?

The reason our outer reality does not reflect our inner truth is not because we are  bad, but because we lack the skill, experience and confidence to sustainably manifest our dreams in our outer reality. Some people have trouble seeing and imagining their most brilliant dreams, but almost everyone has trouble manifesting some portion of their dreams. Everything is a skill and it is helpful to name the skills you want to learn. Once you know that "I want to learn the skill of making an initial impression that helps others see my true nature and trust what they see," then we can develop a strategy for learning this skill by bringing our conscious intention, creativity and intelligence to bear as we choose our actions. We are all on this path, so this page is simply about bringing more conscious awareness to what we are already doing!
It is time to remember the beauty and complexity that we once were and will be again.

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